That simply isn't true. Heterosexual relationships do not have a better track record (or a good track record!) for longevity. Half of all heterosexual marriages end in divorce. The average length of a heterosexual marriage in the US is 7.9 years. Weren't you with your ex for the same length of time? And that's a long time compared to many marriages! How long was Britney Spears' marriage? Kim Kardashians? Moreover, gay women are not breaking up or ending up alone any more than straight women. That's another misperception. If you were to compare the two, are you comparing lesbian relationships to heterosexual dating relationships or heterosexual marriages? Because, I have to tell you, my straight female umarried friends are with a new guy each week! I can't even remember their names, half the time! And, of course, there are some lesbians who enjoy causally dating as well. But there are also many, many lesbians in happy, healthy committed relationships; some are married, others are in domestic partnerships, and others are simply living together. Nothing about being heterosexual makes a relationship any more stable or last any longer. Obviously, the notion that "being straight" makes you better at relationships is absurd. However, growing up in our culture, we've been inclucated from birth--- through Disney movies, commercials for Kay's Jewlers, romantic comedies, church sermons, and everything else-- to believe that there is something special or sacred or stable about a heterosexual marriage. It's an idea that doesn't really exist. Ask heterosexual married people! My T loves her husband but she'll be the first to tell you that it is NOTHING like what you see on TV!! Of course, this mythical hetorsexual ideal is contrasted sharply with what our culture imagines a gay relationship is like. There are all kinds of negative stereotypes out there about how permiscuous ALL gay people are (because people demonize what they see as "different"). But, of course, that isn't true either. They are an infinite number of lesbians in healthy, happy, committed, long term relationsihs and marriages. Finally, I think your perception of all of this is likely influenced by your cultural upbringing and your own personal circumstances. Since you say you've recently gone through a very painful break-up with a woman-- and you acknolwedget that you are struggling with your sexuality and you still have a lot of internal homophobia-- it makes sense that maybe you feel like ALL lesbian women cheat or break up or are going to be alone-- and, maybe you think the grass might be greaner on the other side, so maybe you think that ALL heterosexual marriages would be more stable. But, of course, none of that is true.

I can tell you that I'm a lesbian, and I have never cheated nor have I ever been cheated on. I also haven't spent more than 6 months single since I was 18 years old. I'm only in my 20s so, like most people my age (straight and gay), I have not yet found the one person I'm certain I want to marry. I'm dating someone right now and maybe she's "the one" and maybe she's not. I don't know. But my dating history is no worse than any of my straight friends; in fact, in many cases, it's better. Almost all of my straight female friends have been cheated on by their boyfriends! And some of them have cheated, too. And some of them have been single for years at a time. Of course, there are also those who PREFER to be single; being single is not necessarily a bad thing. But, personally, I do want to get married and have a long, happy marriage and have children... all with a woman. And, since gay marriage is still relatively new, who knows what the "gay" divorce rate will be (probably very similar to the heterosexual divocrce rate). But, so far, us gays have a much better track record!

Finally, since what appeals to you about heterosexuality is its "longevity," do you really crave that longevity with a man? Or would you prefer to have had that longevity with your ex, or with another woman? Because you haven't listed anything that appeals to you about heterosexuality that is actually specific to heterosexuality. Everything you have listed so far is something that can be had by anyone, of any sexual orientation.