i totally agree with you determined. We are together for financial reasons and for the children. It is not as easy as black and white. There are a lot of things inbetween like not haveing to struggle financially and have the children suffer because of it. We are bith thinking of our children and what is the best solution for them aswell as us to be able to get along, We are getting along much better. What happened was a big mistake, but we do have to be mature about the whole situation for the children. I know that I have to look after myself, but when there are children involved I just have to think about them too. I don't agree with what he did, but I can't change the past, I have to look towards the future and what will the the best for us all.