Once my therapist was talking about how it just wasn't fair that my twin sister got dealt a good hand while mine was bust. Her lecture was so melodramatic and overwrought, and it was obvious she wanted me to get worked up into a self-righteous froth.

So I had to be the one to tell her that life is not fair. Why be angry over something that I'm not entitled to? My life is totally independent of my sister's. I don't look at the homeless guy living under the bridge and decry the unfairness that separates our lives. So why should I do this with my sister? She has her burdens too. I wouldn't want them anymore than she would want mine.

I know you can't "should" an emotion. But I think in this instance, my therapist was encouraging me to feel something I shouldn't.