in my real i allways put others first , why i dont know , i have four children i suppose you can tell that from hubbys post (therealme) my children have been hard work and still are my oldest daughter takes up most of my effort shes 22 with severe learning dificuties and behavioural problems along with her add my second eldest is 19 she is dyslexic and her self astyeem is low spends most of her time with a couple of friends or on a chat site or in her room, my son is 15 next mth he is adhd though hes well behaved in school i see a lot of his problems, my yoingest daughter is 13 next mth she just knows to much and yes she is daddys girl not that i mind because she looks out for him when im not home, i have been married nearly 15 yrs, i have depression this is 3 time i have medicated for this and the longest , i work 8 night shifts of 12hrs a mth and jugel my life i dont mix much now as i was betrayed last year by my best friend but thats another story,