Tanya - My name is Tobey. I don't think I have ever posted to anything you have written. I have been here for a while - you can check the name out if you like. I just don't want you to be leary of me. I am a 45 year old male. I too have been raped. This occurred when I was 40 years old...at gun point....and by a group of men. That was five years ago and I am still dealing with it. It takes a while to trust people....give yourself some time. At the time I saw a counselor but only for about four sessions. Now I am currently looking to find one who has experience in dealing with men who have been assualted. The reason I am writing to you though is because it sounds like you are also having a situation where you are stalked? My wife and I have dealt with that also from the time I was attacked. It is only recently .....going on about seven months now that they have left us alone. There is a site called: stalkingvictims.com I think it is called. It gives ways to help people who are going through this to find ways of being safe. It might be good to look at it. I have not been there in a while...if thats not the right address just type in stalking vitims and something about it will come up. I wish you the best in your recover from this.

Sincerely,
Tobey