Are you still seeing this T? It appears that their training was very, very poor. Clearly, this T knows nothing about sexuality. In some states, it is possible for T's to practice without proper credentials / licensing. Have you checked this T's credentials? Where did they get their degree and are the degrees from that educational institution legitimate? Does your state require licensing of T's? For example, Michele Bachmann's husband is a practicing therapist but his credentials are very poor and he would not be allowed to practice in other states. The legitimacy of his practice is through a loophole in the law. (He practices in Minnesota.)

When selecting a T, it is always a good to know what their degree was in, e.g., social work, psychiatry, psychology, and if they can prescribe medications. It is also wise to ask what their areas of specialization and modalities are. You need a T who has a background dealing with sexual orientation and relationship issues. Good intentions are not sufficient to be a T.

BTW, it is possible to be in a loving lesbian relationship and have children. There are many long-term lesbian relationships out there. I am sorry that you had a bad experience in your last relationship. I hope that you can recover from it (and from this "T") and find someone who has similar goals and values as yourself.