Dps, I'm writing this on my phone so apologies for typos etc. I noted in your original post how you blamed yourself, that comes from the abuser. Do you think that now the littles within feel safe enough to 'act out' with your friend? I remember when my first born child was about 4 and the nursery teacher said she was an angel. I told the teacher how she was very demanding and moody and naughty at home. The teacher said to me, well if she can't be naughty at home, where can she be?! You see, you are allowed to be you with your friend. Treasure her. You are ok.