I truly wish I had the words of wisdom to help you, but I don't. I can say that you are not wrong for your feelings and you are not alone. I too am battling the cycle of this talk with my partner of almost 6 yrs. The conversation goes like you've described. I sulk for a while and then another outburst that is always my fault for starting s***. When all I really want is to feel loved and supported. I don't know your answer only YOUR heart can tell you what to do. Maybe it is time to find a more loving partner.