I believe mama meltdowns are our way of showing we care too damn much sometimes!!! I wish I could release my loving mama arms so bad sometimes, let them fall, let them bump their damn head and not get to the point of no choice in the matter like my oldest has done!!! Honestly if I had given him space, not been on his arse so bad about do this do that... I've learned to give him space to mess up and you know what it actually truely does get him to mess up sometimes but MOST of the time it gives him space to make decisions (adult like ones) and goals on his own that I am happy he makes....