I want to ask you something. Do you "demand" proof of his love on a regular basis? Do you question his love a lot? Not an accusation; just wondering and I'll tell you why.

I have a husband who refuses to trust in his core that I love him (he happens to have bpd). No matter what I say or do, or even how often I say I love him, he doesn't always trust that and starts doubting my love.

Honestly, it is maddening to be on the receiving end of this kind of questioning, particularly if at least by action it is obvious that my dedication and love for my husband really is unquestioning. And to turn it into blame because he can't "make you feel wanted" sounds so much like something my husband would say.

I don't know your situation or if this a pattern of questioning/behavior for you, but consider being on the receiving end of being told your love for your spouse isn't being trusted. It really does suck to be on the other side of this. And remember, another person can't "make" you feel wanted; you have to be able to feel that for yourself.