some would agree to this time-tested wisdom: "love is patient, kind, never selfish, not quick to take offense...." also, a counselor once told me "there is no fear in love." if you love her, don't be afraid of loving her despite her not being able to say that she is in love with you. it took me 2 years of dating my high school sweetheart before i could say, "i love you." if she has a history of neglect or abuse or abandonment issues...it may take her time to know exactly how she feels about a person. i hope this helps you some. (((Huggs)))