No, I understand why you'd react that way. It took me AGES to directly ask my T if I could have a hug, because it's one of those things that there's this huge fear of rejection around, 'what if she doesn't want to? Why would anyone want to hug ME?' My T doesn't initiate hugs either, but I hated the idea of having to ask.. in the end I kind of got around it by asking (in writing ) if we could hug goodbye at the end of sessions, and she said yes, so now at the end of sessions she offers. There are times during sessions that I've broken down and been crying my eyes out - and my T just sits there watching as well.. I think most therapists do.. I think there's something about if they offer such comfort at such times it interferes with the process? Perhaps your T would hug you goodbye after session if you asked, even if she doesn't offer hugs in time of distress? I think it's important to talk with her and establish just what her boundaries are, then you can be clear. Understandably, you feel mislead, but it could be a misunderstanding of sorts. I know it feels personal, but it won't be at all. You're not disgusting or a leper. Maybe her boundaries have adapted over time, perhaps she acts differently depending on what she thinks a client needs/what is best for them.. perhaps occasional hugs are okay depending on circumstance, but she isn't comfortable with routine contact? They all have their own ideas. So important to talk it out, I think, and to tell her just how much this has upset you, too.