Hello. My name is Scorpio. I'm a healthy gay woman. Nice to meet you! Well, now you have! My T is a healthy bisexual woman. (I mean, she is a T after all). She says hello, too.

In terms of RL, where do you usually tend to meet gay women? If you're meeting women through the women you already know (who you say are unhealthy), maybe that is why? Bars are also another bad way of meeting healthy people. And something like a support group would be a great place to GO, but not a great place to look for super happy, stable people. If you live in a small town, what about traveling to the next town over or to the closest metropolitan area? Have you ever tried meetup.com? They have a lot of LGBT groups and maybe that would be a way of meeting some new people? Or what about volunteering at an LGBT center or an LGBT non-profit organization? If there isn't an LGBT organization near you, what about participating in activities that commonly have LGBT participants (i.e. softball, drama/theatre, animal shelters, liberal political organizations, women's groups, etc).