Like someone here stated, actions speak louder than words. I've tried that same conversation with my husband many times and he responded pretty much the same yours did. I am a very affectionate person. My husband says I'm needy and I guess I agree. I like attention from him. He is very cold and distant and this bothered me up and down for a very long time. It still does sometimes. We've been together for six years now and it took us most of those years to get to know eachother really well. We are still getting to know eachother. BUT eventhough he's cold and distant at times, he shows me he loves me by being there. He listens even when he doesn't want to. He takes me back everytime I leave. He wants me to get help and be a better wife and mother. He wants these things for our family. I even brought him to an appointment with my t recently and she said she sees a man that is committed and dedicated and isn't going anywhere. Eventhough he's a pain in the *** at times, I love him more than anything and wouldn't trade him for anyone. Actions speak louder than words.

ETA: Passion, I totally understand where you're coming from and sometimes a little love goes a long way. From what I've read and what I know, many men do this. At least he still says that he loves you and doesn't deny it. You've also got to look at everything you may have put him through. I know I have put my husband through a lot and hurt him over and over with this illness and because I can be a complete ********* which I take full accountability. It's hard. We are not easy people to live with and love. Sorry, I hate to see relationships end. I think that hope is never lost unless there is abuse involved. Good luck with everything.