I am a male, but I think I am allowed to post here? It doesn't say "women-focused support", so here goes.

You will probably all be surprised to know that I have always been in the same vote. I have only been IN love once, but I have had numerous other relationships where I did care for the other person. I never had trouble showing affection. If a girlfriend asked me "why do you love me" I was so quick to give all the reasons. ESPECIALLY the one I WAS IN love with. I could keep going on and on and on, probably to the point of pathetic lol. I was like that with anyone I was with though. I am not the type of guy that just dates to date, I have to have a strong connection. Hopeless romantic.

Anywho, on the flip side none of my partners could answer the question to me. I could ask "why do you love me?" and not get the same results they got from me. Even the one girl that meant everything to me. There were times I asked and she even had the nerve to say "I don't know". Are you kidding?! How hurtful. I guess I am just too sensitive of a man, but that was definitely frustrating. Then I would sometimes get the "I just do" response. I know she loved me, but at times she had a hard time of showing it.

I can't really say that people don't deserve you if they can't even answer that simple question that deserves a detailed response, but I am pretty close to thinking they don't. That is a question that shoumd bring up a long list of things, in my opinion. As when you are deeply in love, and the chemistry between the two of you is undeniable, it shouldn't be that hard to answer. In fact, you should be jumping up and down with your hand raised like a stdent who was just offered candy from a teacher if he could answer this one question.

Unfortunately, everyone is different. Sure, actions speak louder than words, but words can be just as important. If someone is saying they love me want want what I want, I expect them to not only be affectionate in their actions but in their words too. That is just me.

I don't think you are wrong at all for asking or that it is asking too much. Take care .