rainbow, i know your right ... about keep bringing it up to her. someone else told me that too.
but i wanted to wait until the feelings came up again on their own and let me know it was time to maybe try again. i guess maybe that time is now.
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Originally Posted by button30
Hi rainbow rose, are they romantic feelings or feelings like not wish t was your mother or your friend?
I think t is being unfair, these feelings mean something and they shoved be explored. I do understand that some t s might be uncomfortable worth these feelings but they are trained to feck with them properly.
Maybe you could email t and tell her you want to find out what these feelings mean as they always mean something, and that way she can't shut you down or change topic! ((hugs)+
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button30, i don't have strong wishes for my therapist to my friend or mother. ... don't know if feelings are romantic ... but they are strong... i'm hard pressed to fully understand and express what they are (or what may be underneath). i just know it is overwhelming to let them surface for even a moment.
it is frustrating that i can't express what i need in a way that she understands. she does try ... it's hard not to internalize and say i suck at communication... but it is a struggle to communicate stuff to her, especially feelings.
I'm starting to think talking about talking about it might be a good way to start and and those emotions might stay below the surface enough for the conversation to constructive. i dunno.
i'm still in a place of not understanding.
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What do you mean by "process"? That is a very general word. Do you mean talk about it out loud? Or think about it by yourself? or something like that. I have no idea what it means and I am curious.  |
By process, I mean talk it through with her - she has clarity about things i do not. (with some things, processing by myself sends me in circles with no understanding or clarity on what to do)
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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
With respect to your situation, you could choose to schedule a few sessions with another T for the sole purpose of processing your feelings about your current T. I don't know if you think that would be helpful or not, but it's something I considered awihile back (though I didn't end up doing it). If you want to just continue talking about it with your current T, the only thing I can suggest is just being explicit and direct and saying, in the moment, "I feel like you're changing the subject" or "I really need you to help me process these feelings. Can we spend the session just talking about them?" I think the more clear you can be, the more likely she is to give you what you're asking for.
I wish you the best of luck with this... let us know how things go if you bring this up at your next session.
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I agree with the suggestion to have a few sessions with another T to process the feelings if current T seems unable/unwilling to do so. T's are human just like all of us here on PC. In my opinion, they avoid certain situations/topics in therapy because it makes them uncomfortable. Avoidance is a natural thing and T's can get caught up in it too, maybe even unconsciously.
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scorpiosis & bamapsych, i have thought about talking with another therapist if i could work this through with my therapist. ... i just really would love, somehow, to be able to work through this
with her. i think it would strengthen the relationship. Thanks so much for your comments!
