Hi Alura,

What a very tough situation to be in. I agree with the other posters that it sounds like emotional abuse. Even if you don't label it that way, it sounds like an unhealthy relationship.

In this last post, you said that your life hinges on him becoming self aware. I'm guessing that you think that if he becomes self aware then the issues in the relationship will go away. Saying this in the gentlest way possible (hard to do when typing, pretend I'm talking softly), something about this makes me think that perhaps this is a codependent type of hope. If this rings true, here is a link to an article that I had saved: http://www.soulselfhelp.on.ca/codependencea.html. I hesitate to read a few posts and then go out on a limb to suggest this, and I hope that I don't offend you by bringing up codependence.

Elizabeth