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Originally Posted by Passion222
I felt completely down and out last night and decided to put something on the table to my husband. Please tell me your opinion on this discussion from last night. I asked my husband last night to tell me why he loves me. He said "I just do". I asked "but why, can't you name any specifics?" He asked"what is this?? Why do I have to tell you?" I responded"you don't know why. You can't even make me feel wanted with anything. This answer is not acceptable". He was so mad at me because I cried hysterically trying to understand where he comes from. I told him he is emotionless, unromantic, unaffectionate and I crave Love. He turned it around and I was the bad guy. He said "you always gotta start ****. Why can't you just accept things? Nothing is good enough". I said "I can't accept life with no love". He literally shut off. Put up the wall and it WILL NOT be discussed again until I lose it with a outburst like that again. Was I asking too much?
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I been here done that, and had to figure it all out and this is what I came to realize. The question wasn't inappropriate rather your go about . You have to be just as tender as you'd like him to be with you. When you ask a man a question like this, you have to first realize that a person mind has to adjust to whats being asked. Maybe he has a lot of reason he loves you, maybe he just needed time to put it all together in a loving way. Just maybe he needed time to think instead of run into you with alot of simple answer. And on the other hand maybe he had to ask himself the question. Just think how much better of a response you would have gotten if you would have ask the question and then waited for an answer, rather than shove your doubts down his throat. Im as bipolar as they get and I understand how we randomly and anxiously want answers when something just pops into our head. Maybe you should apologize and ask in a better way, and tell him why you acted in that way. You just wanna be sure you are still loved and everything is still ok