I dunno, I might have an unpopular opinion. But when you really love someone, and they really love you.. don't these conversations just happen from time to time? I know my bf loves me, and I love him. If I say " hey baby, you know what?.... I love you sooo much because of x, y, and z" he would say " I love you too... tons, you are my best friend!" ( or because a, b,c ) and sometimes he will initiate it. If he is feeling a little insecure he might say " Do you miss me, I sure miss you", it's pretty normal to need a little reassurance here and there, not all the time, but we all do have our times. Why would something so easy and small, be so hard and such a big deal to do, for people who supposedly really love each other ?

To me it seems natural to say "I love you" everyday, and hear it everyday. It's not being "spoiled". Not in my opinion. What if my bf got in an accident that day and I never saw him again? I would have wanted him to have heard that that day. It's not a big deal in a healthy relationship, just natural. If it's what you feel in your heart. My opinion anyways.

I haven't really ever been with anyone who is not affectionate. Well my ex husband, was on and off all the time. Point is being affectionate, and craving affection is not needy, spoiled or anything of that nature, especially when the actions do NOT match the words. It's being a social animal that relies on affection. We all do. Why is that called "needy" ? I am very affectionate, I am sensitive, empathetic, compassionate, and am moved by emotion...Is there a problem with this? I don't think so. And if someone calls you "needy", then I guess I'd say yes, I have needs, like every other human being. Everyone is "needy" then I guess. Sorry.. that gets to me soo much. It's a very good way to place blame on someone who is directly asking you to meet their needs in some of these cases. And after all if you have a need, should you be direct or expect the other person to be a mind reader. I think we all know the answer to that one. Ask directly. Not every need will or can be met, But the "partner" should be interested and want to meet the ones they can, and not just simply ignore the ones they can't. If they can't and you asked, then they can openly discuss why with you, and vice versa.

It's a partnership that requires two people. It doesn't work if only one person wants to participate. Closed off... cold.. whatever you want to call it, doesn't make good recipe for a relationship. This isn't directed at anyone in particular, just my opinion the general topic. No one should have to beg for affection from their partner or spouse.