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Originally Posted by TheHighPriestess
Anika, I agree with your post. Craving affection is a physical and emotional need so in that way, we are needy. Some people don't have this high on their priority list of needs but it doesn't make either person bad or good, right or wrong. Of course, it is good to have your significant other tell you they love you everyday but some people have a hard time articulating that love if you ask them why. They just do and hopefully that will suffice. If they can't explain it, you should be able to take a step back, look at their actions and SEE that they love you. To some people, an unaffectionate person is ultimately incompatible with them but there is no blame. If that's what it comes down to, mark it down to learning, I guess.
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People are different, sure. However, if its createing chaos in a relationship, perhaps it's worth looking at and seeking out help. Or trying to work on it. Communication is vital. Comunicating emotions, and feelings, thoughts is a huge part of a relationship. Everyone has do work in a relationship, it isnt about blame, it's about being the best partner that you can be, both people. If you are emotionally unavailable, you have have a responsability to figure that out. If you have other things that are causing problems, you work on it. Good relationships are hard work, they don't just happen.
Ones need to be closed off does not trump my need for affection. Both people need to work together. I wasn't passing blame. There isn't blame, but there is better ways to make a relashionship work. Passion was saying she gets NO affection, and sounds as though big issues get swept under the rug. So I guess I am speaking on the whole thing.