Anika, I completely agree. I agree no issue should be swept under the rug. I'm sorry if that's how I was coming across. I think telling someone you love them everyday is important as well as being able to see and feel the love. I was just pointing out that it's also important to take a step back and look at yourself because none of us are peaches and relationships are not always rainbows and butterflies. It does take work. It takes accountability as well as respect. Love is a complicated thing and for some people a difficult thing to express and articulate. Counseling is a good option but I believe she said they've tried that already and failedand that's unfortunate. Perhaps it's worth another go? But I agree, a relationship is two people and BOTH need to compromise and maintain dedication.

Passion, don't feel bad for venting. That's in part what this forum is for and we are all here to support you. I hope I have not offended you with anything that I have said. And trust me when I say I have been exactly where you are, many times. It's hard and agonizing at times. I do hope that you guys can develop a better communication and understanding with eachother.