I'm married to someone who is shy and reserved. He doesn't always display his affection to me the way I'd like or say the things I'd like him to say. But I've learnt that that is about him and his problems and I don't let it say anything about me. In his own way he makes me feel loved and that's all that matters
I guess the 2 points I want to make is that guys don't have to do and say what we want them to say to still love us and it really depends if you feel loved overall - which seems not to be the case in your posts.
I hope your hubby can find a way to communicate his love for you.