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Originally Posted by Dreamy01
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I'd be really upset too if my T gave the impression she didn't allow hugs/touch and then it transpired she had contact with some clients. For me, it wouldn't matter whether it was initated by the client or her, it's still contact if T has allowed it. It sounds like you've been given completely different explanations and I hope your T can realise this and own how it has affected you. Maybe this could lead into a discussion of how contact can be managed between you, if that's what you want. T has a right to her boundaries re touch but you have a right to say what you feel about all this and what you've been told.
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I think an underlying 'issue' here is something about myself. The fact that I feel rejected. Rejection and abandonment are two of the major issues I battle with in therapy. She is not rejecting me, but I 'perceive' her actions as rejection.
The fact is that I have never asked her for a hug. I have never asked her to hold my hand. I haven't initiated anything like that. I come across as a 'non-huggy' person. This would automatically send her a message that I am not comfortable with touch.
She would probably be fine if we 'hugged' at the end of each session, as long as I initiated it. But I am not like that. I do hug people, but not just to hug for no reason. I am not a 'greeter hugger'.