I think you know exactly who you are. You are someone who is attracted to women and has been in love with one, and who has minimal interest in men.

I think one issue is that there aren't tons of role models for lesbian relationships that we see everyday. You see two women at dinner.. could be spouses, could be sisters, could be best friends... you see two women at the park with two children..could be a family, could be nannies... And most of us don't grow up with models of homosexual relationships so we don't see all the varieties of what is possible...

It's possible to be in a life long relationship with a woman, or a man. It's about the two people not the statistics. I think you should watch some documentaries, tons on netflix, if you have it.. that can just show you what's possible. It's not all the L word and girls gone wild LOL

You know exactly who you are. You don't need a label right now. Just love yourself because you know you are able to love.. and whoever that ends up being... is totally okay!