I am still trying to figure this out myself. When I am in a relationship my homoerotic fantasy deminishes, when I am single it spikes to the point of obsession. I have recently reconnected to my former female paramour and love her with all my heart but that same fantasy has not dissipated this time around. I am concerned what this means while we were separated I really thought I was closet bisexual, I am confused and frustrated but I would never cheat on her and I never cheated on any of my former girlfriends when I was fortunate enough to have one.