Hi guys!

I see now that I was raised with a lot of blame but also with a lot of praise.

Consequences:
1. Almost everything was either praise or blame, so the idea of a "neutral" comment is almost inconceivable to me.
2. The praise was so consistent that I take lack of praise, or faint praise as criticism.
3. It has contributed to me being judgemental
4. It has contributed to my black-and-white thinking.
5. On a more positive note, it means I am generous with praise and very supportive.

You could sum up by saying that my mother was both too hard and too soft. I have spent my adult life looking for a woman who was as soft as my birth mother without being so hard. And I found one and married her! But I still grieve that my T is not soft enough.