I'm attracting all you damaged people.. I'm normal...lol
The fact you're in the forum means you're damaged, and that will have some impact on the people you meet. It's like damaged draws damaged. The healthy people are out doing things with other healthy people. I think back to when I was dating and at some point I'd disclose my issues, and then at some point they'd drop their normal act and disclose their issues. This seemed to be somewhat consistent. I do believe that our society is growing and growing in dysfunction and will continue to do so. I believe a lot of this has to do with the declining family unit. The divorce rate probably didn't start climbing until the late 70's and more likely took off in the 80's. I do believe the lack of structure provided by a family unit plays an impact on the person we are as an adult. It's hard to know what the full impact of that will be...
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Originally Posted by MDDBPDPTSD
Yes I agree. That is one (of many) reason I quit having relationships. I have come to the conclusion that there are no "normal" people. We all have baggage and most of us try to use another person to sort all of that out.
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Good point! I agree with this.
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I do not think my method works for everyone. In fact, many tell me that my method is decidedly unhealthy. I disagree. I think I have made the most logical choice for my life.
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I'd be curious to read your input in my "I quit" thread.
But yes, people with BPD do seem to attract others with issues. Often times, we will attract those with anti-social personality disorder, because our vulnerability seems to amuse them. Or we will attract damaged individuals, who somehow mistake our emotional intensity for the nurturing they need. And we, not wanting to be abandoned, will do our best to mold ourselves into what they need us to be. We have a talent or skill for that, as we are unsure of our own identity anyway, so why not be what this other person needs, right?[/QUOTE]
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the person that wants to save us (the white knight in shining armor) will come to rescue us. they will probably perceive themselves as normal, but their wanting to save us is their dysfunction.