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Originally Posted by hankster
to my mind, there is nothing wrong with being dependent on T. you asked how can she 'appreciate' such a negative letter. this is more about you than her. if she has made mistakes - which all humans do, regardless - you can learn to deal with it; to still have her in your life even if she is not perfect. We HAD to run, before, at the first hint of imperfection, because what if this new person is (like) our victimiser? Chances are good your T is not your victimiser; you can talk about it here, check it out here, ensure your safety here until you can be sure of yourself. I will agree with dr phil on this, that if you're waffling every minute, then you are still involved (altho he says it re an H).
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Thanks Hankster, I understand what your saying, but what I'm afraid of is that she is going to take out the letter and use it in Wednesday's session. I know she will and it scares the hell out of me. I cringe just thinking about it. I don't want to not go, but when I think about whats going to happen in session I dont want to go. This is what is so confusing. I'm such a mess. I do trust her I know I do, but I said I didn't in the letter. I said so much in the letter, but I just can't seem to say it in session. I mean I spent most of that session in silence. She wanted to know if I felt held in the silence, I don't even know what that means. All I felt was anger and embarrassment. I hate it when its silent. Thanks again Hankster its just good to vent I suppose.
