I guess for me it's by being kind and gentle. Asking how I am doing, and actually wanting to know the answer, just being my friend and letting me know I am loved.

Everyone is different tho. Some people might not like what I like. What I don't like is when my bf tries to "fix" or solve how I am feeling, or issues I might be upset about. Sometimes people just want to vent, and to be heard, but are not looking for opinions. So listening would be a top one for me.

I get really upset if I tell him I am feeling like this ____ because of this_____, and he responds with something like "don't be upset about that, you just need to to do ____ or _____." it make my feelings seem invalid, and it also makes me feel like he doesn't think I bother to think of simple solutions and just like to whine. In reality he is just trying to help, but when I am depressed, it is not what I hear.