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Originally Posted by critterlady
It's very common for those who have been abused to minimize what they went through. It's a protective mechanism.
The first time my T said the word "abuse," it was a shock. I'd never thought of what happened as abuse. I figured all kids went through what I went through and therefore, it was normal. It can take a long time and a lot of repetition to see it any other way.
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I had this shock as well, and it took me some time to stop minimizing my own pain ....sustained through years of somehow growing up in the vicinity of my violent father.
I still find myself downplaying the damages..or telling myself that if it's not life-threatening physical harm, it must not be cruelty or outright abuse.
but it is, and the scar tissue is there, visible or not.