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Originally Posted by skysblue
OK, so if you're running from difficult stuff, that's your right, isn't it? We have fears, we have emotions, we have confusion. Are you saying T2 won't see you if you resist doing some difficult task right now?
I can't imagine my T telling me I HAD to do something before she would help me. I mean, isn't that why we're in therapy - to get help with big issues? But T2 wants you to perform, now, a task that you don't feel comfortable with. Are you sure you want to see T2? Is she going to make those kind of demands in the future? Or is she acquainted with T1 and she, herself, doesn't want to step on toes.
And, again, what is a 'proper' ending? Is it possible she just wants you to inform T1 to be sure you're fully in camp with her? Maybe she isn't even asking you to have another session with T1.
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I guess there are two ways of looking at it - either T2 was saying that for professional colleague reasons (stepping on toes), or because T2 believes I would gain something from challenging myself to do something difficult and actually talking face to face with someone that I worked with for 2.5 years - actually maybe there is a third reason - out of respect. I am very good at just cutting people of (T1 always knew this was a "danger"), so maybe it would be good for me to do "otherwise".
T2 did ask whether I felt is appropriate to share the name of T1 and I said no - it is a small town and it is possible that they may come into contact with one another.
Maybe I am just feeling a little more robust at the moment, but I think boundaries / conditions are good things to explore - I can choose whether to agree with them or not (there is always consequences of course) and maybe that will help me in my passivity - maybe that is why T2 is telling me to go back to T1.
But it seems there is not absolute plan for a final sessions / s and there are a range of ways to choose to end.