some of you might know the problems ive been having with my auntie and her grandaughter (my cousins daughter, so that makes her my cousin too). to make it easier i will name them, my auntie is called Sue, her Daughter is called Belinda, and her daughter is Kellie. sue, belinda & kellie live half the UK away from me up north, im down south.

well on my mums 5th anniversary of her death back in may this year, kellie had gone to my mums grave and poured beer and vodka on it and said "have a drink on me lin (my mum), you always liked a good drink". my mum died of alcoholism. well when kellies friend told me what kellie did, i rang up Sue and told her what ive just heard and she replied "oh its probably not true, iw ouldnt believe everything you hear" and i agreed, so i rang kellie direct and asked her, and the response i got? it was this... "hahaha yea i did that, and im proud too" and she was really happy about what she did. so kellie and i ended up arguing and i told her i dont ever wnat to see her again. we hung up. i then rang my auntie to tell her it was tue after hearing doubt from my auntie, her gran. and when i told my auntie this is the reply i got..."oh yea i know, ive known for a while, but ive not been bothered to do anything about it" which made me angrier, how can she not be bothered! its her sisters grave!! why did she lie to me the first time when i spoke to her! so i had a huge row with my auntie and i also told her that i dont ever want to see her, or kellie ever again. and i meant it and still mean it today.

well it seems my auntie has been going round to certain members of my family (ie my uncle rob, his wife jane etc and my nan) and telling them all that me and my sister have been really nasty to her and shes turned them all against us. my uncle had a row with my sister last night about it and it really upset her because my sister jamie and i havent done anything wrong, it was kellie and sue that have. and now the family dont like us! wheres the sense in that!

my sister came here last night all upset and it took me about an hour to calm her down, and i just told her that "sue and kellie know they are in the wrong, but the yare trying to drag us down with them, and by getting upset your letting them, we can stand up to them, and im with you every step of the way so if they try dragging you down, they will have to drag me down too...and im not prepared to be dragged down by anyone!". i just told my sis that im supporting her every step of the way, and just because me and my sister were the only ones prepared to stick up for my mums grave, doesnt mean we should be treated like this! i thought my uncle was on my side to be honest because we've spoken before and he seemed to agree, but now hes gone and argued with my sister. i dont know what to do. i will ring my uncle rob up this afternoon to talk to him about it all, get his side of the arguement and see what sue has been saying to him. i rang up sue last week to try and resolve everything because its upsetting my nan, and all i got was verbal abuse from her and her daughter!

im sorry for such a long post, its quite a complicated story and i hope i told it without confusing anyone. has anyone got any helpful suggestions on what they think i should do next? i dont want to fall out with rob and his wife or my nan, i dont care about sue, belinda or kellie because i never see them anyway because they live so far away. but shes turning my family against me and my sis when we havent done anything wrong. i wish my mum was here to help, she would be so ashamed of sue and co.