Canacrip, it sounds to me as if you're rapid-cycling, but I'm not a doctor and can't diagnose.

Why don't you go in to talk to a psychiatrist? If you're on meds, they're not working. You may need something else, including a temporary anti-anxiety medication.

Your wife may be distancing herself because your anger is too strong when you release it.

She also needs help, Canacrip.

Please get it; don't risk another week without assistance, even if you have to go in to see your general practitioner before you can get an appointment with a psychiatrist.

You're a conscientious man; otherwise, it would be something like "walk out the back, Jack"; "drop off the key, Lee--get yourself free". That's not your style at all; neither is it your wife's. You both have misunderstandings in your communication with each other. That needs to be corrected as soon as possible.

Take care and please get the help you both could benefit by having.

Genetic