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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
T1 is away and I didn't feel things were progressing and I was just constantly finding it so hard in the sessions.
So as I had the extra free time I went to see another T today. We had a 2 hour session and I was blown away at how different it felt.
I got reprimanded by T2 for seeing T2 without finishing it appropriately with T1 first - but actually although I felt guilty for putting T2 in an awkward position (T's words), I still don't believe my actions were inappropriate - surely it is reasonable to check other people out before making a decision re:termination?
Anyway I feel very inspired now - this T is more experienced (and more expensive) but I feel this T really understood the difficulties I have been having with T1 and T2 has a more flexible approach to therapy, not subscribing to any one approach.
However T2 will only see me on condition I have a proper ending with T1  So I have to go to T1 next week and explain. 
What happens when you tell T you want to quit? Do you have to go to more than one session? I am not looking forward to it at all  |
Most likely your therapist knows that therapy isn't working on some level and may not be surprised by your desire to move on. I had to move on to a new T after seeing my former T for 10 years. It a huge step for me. My former T was surprised but agreed that he had taken me as far as I could go with him. I needed someone else to go to the next step. It wasn't a reflection at all on his effectiveness as a T. He did CBT. I needed a trauma T. Because of my growth with him, I now needed something else. He did feel a bit slighted and it was ackward. I talked a bit in session with him about wanting to try a different form of therapy and even asked for referrals. I did not have a goodbye session. I agree with your T2. You really need to end with your current T but I don't think it needs to take more than a session or two. I wish that I had an official goodbye session with my former T.