You don't know what will happen unless you try right?

I broke up with my long term boyfriend, and to him it seemed out of the blue. To me it did not. I had presented him with the same issues many times, and he seemed to ignore what I said, even when I said it was going to end our relarionship. I was not asking him to change as a person, but we both had some issues we needed to work on to make this relationship healthier.

We were apart for 2 and a half months. In that time, we both realized how much we wanted it to work. We both took repsonsability and made some changes that we needed to make. We are still working on changes, but I think thats a lifenlong thing, as people are always chaning and growing. We have talked about it and both agree that the sepearation, for us was a good thing. Our relationship is now stronger, and healthier than before. We also no longer take each other for granted.

So it can and sometimes does workout. Hopefully, this can be something that can serve to strengthen your relationship as well. Have you talked to her about how you feel about the trial seperation idea? Have you thought about what you would like to see happen, or a plan or idea that you have? Usually the problems do not rest soley on one person in a relationship or marriage, so she may have some work to do herself.

You said you have been seeing a therapist, which is great. Maybe tho you both should be, marriage couselling might be a very good idea.

I wish the best of luck with this. And keep reaching out for suport here, it' a hard situation, but I am glad you are working on your needs and wants as well.