i was in a very bad place financially, and it became a spiral. the harder i worked to get out of it, the worse it got. i covered it up bc i felt shameful, instead of asking for small bits of help that would have gone a LONG way.

i finally got my finances in order about a year before i got married, thankfully, and now i (we) actually have decent money in the bank. Probably because he won't let me go off and vacation whenever i want :P