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Originally Posted by Sannah
I think that mantras can work but I also think that you have to work it from the other end and that you need to discover why you are so hard on yourself.
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I don't think it's that mysterious. I am hard on myself because I
have to be. This is what I try to tell my therapist and have been unable to do.
When you only have yourself to lean on and there is no one around who cares if you're sad, you can't afford to feel anything bad. It's a luxury that saps energy and time spent on more productive behaviors. Crying only makes sense if there is someone around to answer it. Preferably someone who can help you.
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I also think that your sadness is a breakthrough. You have been altering your approach it seems.
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I wish it was a breakthrough! I've been sad with my therapist plenty of times. I've just broken a spell of non-sadness, though. So it feels weird to revert and in such a bad way (I know "revert" is not a good word to use, but I don't know of a better term.)