Thee group you describe does not sound supportive at all. In fact somewhat the opposite. Reality is you need to find one that works for you. I have found the safest and most helpful groups are around churches. I went to one previously at the local hospital and it was dreadful. Finally I am now going to one sponsored by a recovery ministry in the area this really affirming and helpful. Don't give up though but find the one tht fits your needs and in which you feel comfortable. In this area one size definitely does not fit all