Ive heard of relative doing this. and in my family its not sacrelig and so on to pour beer over a grave. its recongnizing the person for how they want to be remembered.

I had a relative who partied alot. while she was alive she always said when she died she wanted people to remember her partying and happy.

well she went out the way she lived - during a party she went out for more beverages for the party and crashed and died. So now some of the people who knew and partyed with her "share a drink" with her on the aniversery of her death to let her know we still remember her and will always honor her by partying with her dead or alive.

So many times when someone dies suddenly people stretch the truth of what that person was like in life. for example a hated relative suddenly becomes the most upstanding member of the family because "its not right to put the dead down" or "only say good things about the dead."

Well some in my family think that kind of thing is hypocritacal. my relative partied and my relative died partying and so we honor her rememberance not as the the hypocrocy that happens when a person dies but as they truely were in life for us.

She partied so we share a beer with her on her special day. for if there is a heaven and its perfect - well for this relative the perfect life was partying so she's up in heaven having an eturnity of partying with anyone and everyone that wants to join in.