Please don't apologize for reaching out. In fact, it may seem cold, but when I'm feeling sorry for myself because I'm not in a relationship, I can read posts like yours and remember that another person cannot make me happy or fulfill me. This is a great help to me! It's been too many days to remember who posted that article, I think it was Sept. Morn. There must be an epidemic of this problem, my ex sister-in-law is on the verge of divorce for the same reason, a communication breakdown that her new husband can't seem to get past. And she is "sure" counseling wouldn't do any good. How can we possibly know that? Isn't it worth a try at least? My ex and I went but did not stick with it. I do not regret trying, what do we have to lose but a little money? How important is that in the end? When the mind closes to possible solutions for fear of the results we deny ourselves of a great learning opportunity, which is important, because regardless of the results, "I" will still be here, and if I don't learn anything from failures, I am bound to repeat the same mistakes.