HI kat2000 - I agree mostly with Rose76, if your mother is threatening you and putting you at risk then eventually it may get to the stage where you will have no option but to have her put into a home or respite centre - for your own sanity as well as hers. I don't believe that there is absolutely no alternative for someone who is having to care for someone who not only is very difficult to look after but is also a danger to your health. I don't live in the USA but if this is the case i will be very suprised - i think selling the house might be another idea, at least if you have to pay you will at least have more of a means to do so - what does her doctor say about all this? I would definately get in touch with a support group, even if its an online one, for people who are carers - they may be able to put you in touch with the right people. What about the caregivers support board here? Have they been able to suggest anything? I really hope this situation resolves positively for you - both you and your mum have a right to feel safe. All the best.