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Originally Posted by Wyrd One
I'm so scared I'll lose the love of my life. It's not entirely fair that she ask me to change myself, but at the same time, I think she's right that I do need to develop my "self". She wants a more equal partner, she wants an individual with their own opinions and interests. I can understand that. It pains me that I haven't been providing that to her. It sounds like it would good for me and our relationship if I can manage to find that again. I fear it may not be enough though.
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I started a longer post reply but it was overkill.
Simply put, what I see in your final statements is that you're still in a mindset of what she wants over you. Stop and think very deeply about
what you want, not what she wants for you.
Not what you want to do for her, but what do you really want, separate from her (not separate as in without her but individually).
I hope this makes sense. I know it does in my head.
I feel for you. I too am a guy that did the same thing with my wife (separated, getting divorced) for 13 years.