I would say that you have "normal" concerns about this part of your relationship. Oh, you are such a dear, and your wife is so lucky. I don't think you are screwing up at all, you clearly love your wife and you want to "respect" her healing. I think that you will have to find a time to talk about this with her and be honest with your wife and see what she says to you. Keep in mind that your wife does love you and you are not the person that "hurt" her, you are a man she could "trust". It is important that you let her know that her history has not changed how you feel about her in all the ways you feel about her and that you want to respect her.

You can even talk to her therapist about this and see what she thinks as well. This history has just really been coming to the surface and your wife has finally opened up, so it is difficult to say how she will respond to love making right now.

I think that it is important that she knows that her history has not changed how you feel about her as I mentioned, but you also don't want to presure her either. It is also important that she let you know if there are any things you may do that trigger her so you can respect her and "avoid" those behaviors.

(((I think you are a nice man))))
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