Hi there. I hope I can be of some help.

Firstly, simply for the record if nothing else, his comment about virgins is absolute and utter BS...I realize that has little to do with your question, and thus I apologize, but I had to get that off my chest. That is heartlessly cruel, ignorant, vile...etc.

But to answer your question...I do believe so. Personally, I am of the train of thought that anything after you saying "no" is against your will, and thus rape. It's perhaps not the "classic stereotype" of it, but you said no, and he proceeded to do it anyway. That, as I call it, is rape. I am sorry.

Additionally, and I again apologize that it isn't in direct response to your question, with respect to your husband, what input does he have to qualify what is and isn't rape? Even if a court of law were to uphold that what happened to you isn't rape (which while I'm not a lawyer yet, I'd say you have a case), and thus end the "technicality" of if it is or isn't, it's still based on your language upsetting to you, and the semantics shouldn't matter...if it bothers you, he should be there to help you through it, not argue definitions.

I do apologize that I meandered in and out of your question, and I ask your forgiveness there. I felt as though it had to be said though.

I hope I was of some help, and I wish you my best. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

My best,
Harley