They are right...if she has property, they will use the money they can acquire from that property to put your mom somewhere safe. You wouldn't be abandoning her; you'd be putting her somewhere where she'll be safe and you can work on regaining your sanity. Call the police and talk to them....they do have the right to take your mom if they believe she is in danger or putting you in danger. Talk to the neighbors; have them document everytime they hear problems develop and you start documenting each day as they progress. That will be proof of what's going on. It doesn't matter her age. There is help out there. You just have to find it. Good luck...I wish you the absolute best.