support to me means many things
for example there is the support of clothing that is a support for various parts of the body and in that case I mean hold up what belongs up and hold in what belongs in.
Then theres the kind of support from family - a place to stay when needed, a mothers shoulder to cry on when needed, a sister/buddy/partners in crime for midnigh swims and when we could not sleep and needed a midnight chat, brushing each others hair and teaching reading with the book "jaws" LOL and so on.
Then theres my friends and they support me in many ways -
Ive had friends that were in the labor room holding my hand, offering to french braid my hair, rocking with me (and pulling back muscles in the process for me),
Friends that went to battle with and for me when I went public even though they were also threatened and so on by those that wanted me to go back to the being shy, quiet, keep the secrets little girl,
Friends that went into prisons, churches, Jr and High school classes, college classes, the kwanis clubs, task forces, TV, comunity workshops, and many more public speaking engagements with me be it to tell of their abuse or be it to hold my hand while I spoke,
Ive had friends that gave me a place to stay and loaned me money and co signed for me when I moved across country,
Friends that took care of my child when I needed a break.
Friends that who sit on the sidelines watching me grow from a victim into a survivor and offering their shoulder and advice when they can. be it middle of the night or during the day.
friends who help research and so on when a DHS caseworker was breaking federal, state, and county laws and rules of guidelines and ethics,
Friends that dig right in with me on my therapy projects and research.
Friends I can call no matter the time or problem
friends I can write to no matter the time or the problem
Friends that will cut a 15 -20 minute drive down to 5 minutes flat if needed. Day or night, be it I got hit by a car while biking or my just needing to talk or vent.
Support is also my family physician of 11 and a half years who considers himself family so much so that he has no problem sitting down and putting things rught out there good and bad the way he sees it. and my child and I both also consider him "family". We can call him at 7am and by 8 be told get your butt up here for 8:30- 9:00.
Support is also LL who will do what ever it takes for me even taking situations to mediation when her co workers are trying to force her into doing something she does not think is right for me. Even if it means attending meetings where there is a possibility where others will not treat me right, and then sit there and let me fire at a lawyer who was taking advantage of me and my mental problems to the point of making decisions based on his personal opinions instead of the law. being open minded and willing to try new things no matter how untraditional and off the wall the ideas that I come up with are. Thanks LL
Support is also E my back up incase LL is not available. Though I have never actually met E she has been like a guardian angel. going up against that DHS caseworker, and making sure everything is on track with my therapy plans and offering questions and advice when she can.
Support is the many professionals and survivors out there that lend their ears, life stories, ideas and expertise so that I know that I am not alone and have the factual varifyable truth that has enabled me to heal by leaps and bounds both as a survivor of child sexual abuse and as a person with DID.
Like I said I have many ideas of what support means to me..