Dear Alura,

As daunting as it seems, and understandably so, the best thing would be to just tell him. After your driving test maybe, if now is too emotionally charged (good luck with the test btw!). You really should clear the air, as you seem to be shouldering all the guilt - and he is not helping by heaping it on to you.

If he is all compassion and care now, making a clean breast of things should not 'upset' him. But if he gets angry or tries to shift the blame onto you, then this will speak volumes don't you think? Also, sorry but i found him saying *he* forgives *you* a bit rich esp. after what he put you through... Hm, the mind boggles.

I hope you don't find my post preachy etc., not at all my intention. Just wish you the best!