Define ***? I mean can you break it down into specific behaviours? Maybe you could look at those behaviours idividually and see why they happen. Get to the root of why you behave in a particular way -- and then you can change it.

Also one man's *** is another man's soft cuddly part (unless I'm misinterpreting the three asterisks - in which case this statement could have alarming connotations). So be gentle with yourself... ((((HUG))))