My daughter is 27 years old and broke up with her boyfriend about 7 months ago. She has lost so much weight and is definitely depressed, judging from the signs. She willingly went to the doctor I use last week, however, she wanted to go alone. When I saw the same doctor yesterday, I asked if she mentioned the break-up to him. He didn't say a whole lot, which I completely understand with the confidentiality promise. But he did ask me if she was abused as a child, because she mentioned her kidneys hurt? I told him that I wasn't aware of any abuse, but that she had been complaining about her kidneys for quite some time. (like years!) He then said that typically people who have been abused complain about their kidneys.

Needless to say, I was taken by suprise, because I know she has had depression symptoms, but I had no idea that she has been abused. I don't know the next step I should take. Should I ask her about her feelings? See if she will go to a psychologist? She is a private person so I don't want to push her too much.

Any advise will be greatly appreciated.