I am sorry that you are having to go through this right now!! I don't know if you are a praying person or not, but if you are I would pray about it, surrender it to your higher power and see what happens.

I have to agree with what has been said already, this is a sick behavior, and I too would project this onto myself and feel less then adequate. I have to agree with taking some time away to just think the whole situation over and coming up with the situation that best fit YOU. YOU ultimately have to be the one that needs to be happy with the choice you make, not him. I know you love him, but if you are not happy with things that he is doing then what is going to change in the future that will make you happy with the same behaviors. Remember YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!!!